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You’re under a lot of pressure with a challenging day-to-day schedule. You likely feel stretched too thin. How can you eliminate some of the overwhelm and make your day better?
One way is to reframe your thoughts. We all have a lot of chatter in our minds that doesn’t serve us well. When was the last time your inner critic showed up whispering in your ear? For me, it was a few nights ago when my inner critic told me I couldn’t grow a thriving, profitable business. (I’ve learned that she always shows up when I’m tired, so I don’t pay any attention. After a good night’s sleep my inner critic is quiet as a mouse.)
We can decide to use different words too.
Thoughts, Words, and Energy
Our thoughts become our words and they’re emotional energy drains or boosts how we feel.
A few months ago, I was overwhelmed with all the meals that I needed to plan, shop for, prepare, and clean up while family visited. The chatter in my mind was one long list of have-tos. “I have to plan dinner which means that I have to shop for the ingredients. But before I can shop, I have to clean up from breakfast.” Etc., etc., etc. While in the whirlpool of have-tos, I remembered something I heard on a podcast: instead of saying have to, say get to. I tried it and here’s what happened. “I get to cook for my family that I love.” Immediately, a feeling of gratitude replaced my feelings of overwhelm. The emotional energy drain ended. By swapping I “have to with get to,” I generated an energy boost.
Using I “have to” is the language of burden. And we often say it with a sigh, like it’s an obligation or we’re a victim. Conversely, saying I “get to” is the language of privilege. It’s as if we’ve received a gift, and we are savoring the opportunity.
Suggestions to Try This Yourself
First, be aware of the words that create chatter in your mind and how they’re making you feel, such as obligated or victimized. Decide to practice swapping “get to” for “have to.” Monitor how your energy responds. Does it receive a boost? How about your attitude?
As a working professional raising a family, you have a lot of have-tos at home and at work. What would it take to swap at least one have to with a get to? How would your day improve? Instead of “I have to stay home with a sick child,” how about “I get to stay home with my child when he’s not feeling well and needs my comfort. This is part of helping her feel safe and cared for?” Or, instead of “I have to work with a colleague who always sees the glass as half empty,” how about “I get to work with a colleague that gives me good practice dealing with a negative attitude.”
From Thoughts to Destiny
By swapping one word for another, you decide how your thoughts and words impact your actions and how you show up in the world. What do you get to do? #IDecideToRebalance