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Designing and living a life you love requires intention. Pure and simple.

While self-care strategies are critical to your vitality, they aren’t enough to live a life you love. It’s a disservice to you if we focus primarily on self-care.

Self-care helps you:

  • Spend more time in your zone of healthy stress
  • Boost immunity
  • Slow down your hectic pace
  • Recalibrate and recover from unhealthy stress
  • Strengthen your mind-body connection

And more. But self-care isn’t enough if you want to live your life’s purpose. Live a life you love. Why? Here are 5 reasons.

1. Self-Care Is a Pre-Step

Self-care is a prerequisite to creating time and space for your health and wellness. It’s the initial training and momentum you need to make changes in your life. And, you need enough mental, physical, and emotional energy to effectively start new habits that stick.

Your life is so full that self-care practices may be the most you can do right now. That’s OK. Just keep in mind that it’s a pre-step. That to really design a meaningful life that you love, self-care isn’t enough. You need to do more when the season is right.

2. Self-Care Doesn’t Always Increase Your Proactiveness

Taking better care of yourself provides stress relief and helps you respond to life’s curveballs. There is a nod to the prevention of health and wellness issues, however, you need less reactivity and more proactiveness. To live your life intentionally, you need comprehensive planning to design and live a meaningful life that you love.

3. Self-Care Doesn’t Drive You to Assess Your Values, Strengths & Desires

Living your life’s purpose firmly rests on the foundation of your core values, strengths, and desires. You must know what they are before designing a life that you love. Self-care practices tap into some of this but don’t create a big enough roadmap to a life you love.

4. Self-Care Doesn’t Identify Fears that Keep You Stuck

One of the significant reasons limiting the progress you want is fear. It happens to everyone.

Fear keeps you stuck, either because you’re hesitant to disrupt the status quo by digging deeper to learn more about the fear or because it’s a blind spot. Fear may also cause you to sabotage your efforts toward designing a meaningful life that you love because you crave safety and security. Imagine the freedom you could experience by getting unstuck from your fears and moving closer to living your life’s purpose.

5. Self-Care Doesn’t Force You to Think BIG about Your Life’s Purpose

In the blog post What to Do if You’ve Lost the Motivation for Self-Care, one suggestion is to connect to your WHY for self-care. While important in generating motivation for self-care, the question doesn’t focus on the WHY for your life. To design and live a meaningful life, you must think bigger and deeper about your life’s purpose.

Beyond Self-Care

Again, self-care is vital to your health and wellness but alone it’s not enough to design and live a meaningful life that you love. If your season of life prevents you from doing more, that’s OK. Seasons change.

If you have time, space, and energy to design a more comprehensive roadmap to a meaningful life you love, intentionally work on designing it. Don’t let your life pass by on autopilot. Take charge of your choices to live more intentionally.

Ask yourself questions that will lead you to the bigger life you’re meant to live. For example, ask:

  • Which of my core values need to be aligned with the major components of my life (work, family, hobbies, etc.)?
  • Which strengths do I naturally rely on and would be happy to continue developing? (As opposed to investing time and energy into diminishing my weaknesses.)
  • What lights me up and suspends time because I’m completely immersed?
  • What scares me about designing and living a life I love?
  • What support and resources do I need to live my life’s purpose?

Consider coaching to help answer these questions and provide accountability so that you don’t live your life on autopilot. You are likely to make more progress effectively and efficiently with the right-for-you partner than you can achieve on your own. Imagine moving closer to living your life’s purpose.

Wrapping It Up

Self-care is a prerequisite to creating time and space for your health and wellness. It’s the initial training and momentum you need to make changes in your life. To rebalance your wellbeing.

To intentionally design and live a meaningful life, however, you need to think BIG and believe you deserve a life you love.

What are you meant to do because it aligns with your core values, leverages your strengths, and lights you up? Whatever your answer, do that. And use self-care to help you live your life’s purpose.

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5 Reasons Why Self-Care Isn't Enough

Karen Clark Salinas

I’m Karen Clark Salinas, and it’s my mission to help women live their full purpose (work + family) without sacrificing wellbeing. I want to be the coach I wish I’d had when I was a working mom. Someone to help me get unstuck and live my life more intentionally. Marriage, motherhood, chronic illness, divorce, remarriage, and caring for aging loved ones contribute significantly to my story. I know for sure that, with my support, you can pursue your professional dreams while raising a happy and healthy family.


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